Since leaving my life as a professional student to be a stay-at-home-mom with my daughter I feel as though our home has spiraled out of control. Things are strewn all about, important paperwork needs organizing and create piles on tables and couches, baby items have over taken every room, and stacks of folded clothes never get put away so I just keep wearing the same things.
My daughter is not interested in entertaining herself and won’t stay with a babysitter without screaming almost the entire time, so this new mama is tired and feeling like a failure. I remember thinking at one point in my pregnancy that I went to medical school which means I took on more work than is humanly possible on no sleep, so surely I can handle staying at home with my baby. Wrong. I never imagined staying at home with a baby could be such hard work!
Last week I was filling out some paperwork that asked for my occupation. I looked at my husband and said “I guess I can’t write Homemaker because this home is a hot mess”. His response was “You should probably just write Stay-At-Home-Mom”. Ouch. He was just trying to joke along with me, but he is right! I don’t feel at all like a homemaker. And the stay-at-home-moms that I know make this job look much easier than I feel it is. I’m embarrassed to even have anyone see our home and the disaster zone that it has become.
I absolutely love being able to stay at home with my daughter but I feel as though I’m just not very good at this new job. I feel like I can’t handle all the responsibilities of keeping a home full-time. My husband is great at pitching in and cleans the bathroom without me even asking him for help but somehow everything still seems to be half finished and my To Do List gets longer and nothing gets crossed off. He will even make dinner after coming home from work on days when my daughter has really demanded my full attention. I am truly a hopeless homemaker.
I’m making it a goal for this year to get some type of system or schedule in place to help me feel less overwhelmed and more focused on making this house a home. I’m tired of feeling like another day has gone by and things just keep getting more out of control. I know that my main focus will always be taking care of my daughter and husband but I must bring some sort of order to our lives because I’m starting to feel really burnt out and overwhelmed.
Please help this hopeless homemaker by sharing your best tips for managing your home and getting/staying organized.